Attention to parents and future parents

Note: this article is totally aim on complaining. If it is sounds bad for you please take your visit at next article.

THIS is specially aim to those parents or those future parents.

Lately I was encountered with problematic family. The young parent giving birth to a child three years ago and not fully taking their responsible to raise the child, ending up with their child is so reluctant to follow their words. Recently they give birth to another baby and they start to decree the three year-old child to be self-independent instantly. I was so pity to this child and decided to give some commend to this family, but they said they know how to tackle this problem since they are older than me and since they are being parents while I am not. However, from the way they teach and scold the three year-old child I can see that they don’t know. Probably this would work for other children, but in this case is so much different. That family is totally absurd, they always though that they had given all elemental things for the child to growth healthily by avoiding the child to eat sweets, ice cream and so on. Yeah, may be you would agree to this family. But think again if you having a childhood of knowing nothing about sweets and junk food: do you think this is fair? Even an adult also need it, why they can’t? In this new era, they are a lots of article evaluate about children thinking mind. When children being bad or naughty can be caused by 1) to attract their parent’s attention or 2) the behaviors are inherited from the environment they live and the way they grow up. So, there is nothing to blame to the children themselves, instead the parents should inspect themselves as being a well developed adult. So, before I end up this article I hope that any couple could consider about the criteria prior before you take your action to get married.

1st) choose the person you 100% loves to be your partner that accompany you until the end. Even 99.9% should reconsider precisely until you get the 100%.

2nd) plan for your child education and instruction before you plan to give birth for a child.

3rd) never make your child to follow what you think by yourself. Never build a road for your child that according to what you think in your mind. Your work is as an advisor, not a leader. Your work is to give suggestion and alternative for your child, not giving command that should follow like army!

4th) always seek for the specialty in your child to inspire the alternative for your children. Don’t follow any plans or alternative that looks good in other children. Make a unique alternative that can suit your child to choose.

Think about it: If a parent jobs is to mold a child into what they want, what about the molding machine in the factory. If a parent job is to make their child to follow the command, what about the army in Iraq.