Attention to parents and future parents

Note: this article is totally aim on complaining. If it is sounds bad for you please take your visit at next article.

THIS is specially aim to those parents or those future parents.

Lately I was encountered with problematic family. The young parent giving birth to a child three years ago and not fully taking their responsible to raise the child, ending up with their child is so reluctant to follow their words. Recently they give birth to another baby and they start to decree the three year-old child to be self-independent instantly. I was so pity to this child and decided to give some commend to this family, but they said they know how to tackle this problem since they are older than me and since they are being parents while I am not. However, from the way they teach and scold the three year-old child I can see that they don’t know. Probably this would work for other children, but in this case is so much different. That family is totally absurd, they always though that they had given all elemental things for the child to growth healthily by avoiding the child to eat sweets, ice cream and so on. Yeah, may be you would agree to this family. But think again if you having a childhood of knowing nothing about sweets and junk food: do you think this is fair? Even an adult also need it, why they can’t? In this new era, they are a lots of article evaluate about children thinking mind. When children being bad or naughty can be caused by 1) to attract their parent’s attention or 2) the behaviors are inherited from the environment they live and the way they grow up. So, there is nothing to blame to the children themselves, instead the parents should inspect themselves as being a well developed adult. So, before I end up this article I hope that any couple could consider about the criteria prior before you take your action to get married.

1st) choose the person you 100% loves to be your partner that accompany you until the end. Even 99.9% should reconsider precisely until you get the 100%.

2nd) plan for your child education and instruction before you plan to give birth for a child.

3rd) never make your child to follow what you think by yourself. Never build a road for your child that according to what you think in your mind. Your work is as an advisor, not a leader. Your work is to give suggestion and alternative for your child, not giving command that should follow like army!

4th) always seek for the specialty in your child to inspire the alternative for your children. Don’t follow any plans or alternative that looks good in other children. Make a unique alternative that can suit your child to choose.

Think about it: If a parent jobs is to mold a child into what they want, what about the molding machine in the factory. If a parent job is to make their child to follow the command, what about the army in Iraq.

Meet Me Halfway

YoYo. Hey there, sorry for not update my blog for such a long time. Today I got nothing to complaint as usual, but i would like to share a good song with you all. Meet Me Halfway, from Black eyed peas. The reason I 'promote' this song is because of Fergie, she looks so beautiful in this MV. Her black hair make she look elegant and quite obviously she lost weight for this MV (I think so...). So try to enjoy this MV, it is nice. Trust me.

And thats all. bye...

AUNTY for younger or older

I think Malaysian especially those Chinese have problem to greet with people.

That day, a middle age lady came to order Curry Mee from my mother and she said: “aunty, ho wa kari mi, bihun mi mai ham.”

Another case, an obviously old looking man with white hair and wrinkled face came by to order mee and said: “aunty ar, ho wa kari mi, ge hui, ge hiam jio.”

They are the proper sentences to use in Butterworth to order food except the word ‘AUNTY’. Can you imagine some people older than you calling you aunty or uncle? How can this happen in our culture!!!

I mean there are some other proper words to use rather than ‘aunty’ right? Or maybe they don’t understand the word ‘anuty’ or ‘uncle’?

I remember in Kampar, all their favorites greet is either leng zai or leng lui and these can come out from their mouth even with closed eye. But why in Butterworth there is no such kind of name to use. No doubt leng zai and leng lui must use depend on situation (because can cause misunderstood, in Butterworth you use these word, people would though you are prostitute or what), but at least they (those really aunty and uncle) use some other proper word instead of calling others younger with an old greet! Please la~!

However this can’t blame on them because this is the heredity from our parent since we are young, right. When we are still in children time, we had well-trained to greet elders with either aunty or uncle depends on their sexuality. Other than that, nothing had been taught to differentiate their level of oldness (perhaps they also found hard to make a name out for them).

Whatever, this is important because we are well educated person. So I have a personally suggestion out for you all to make as a references.

When you saw people about the same age with you, use ‘yo’.

When you saw people younger than you, use ‘Hi! Hi!’.

And when you saw people older than you but looking younger, use ‘what product you use’.